Twitch streamer is arrested in Japan following car accident, man laughs at friend's concern for her wellbeing: '[She] claimed I was being misogynistic'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Oct 9, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

It's never nice to laugh at someone else's misfortune. We would hate for someone to do that to us, so it's good practice not to do it ourselves. This is not the way of the internet, though. It seems like at least half of the content we consume is so that we may take delight in the misfortune of others. It's the legacy of shows like America's Funniest Home Videos, where we'd tune in every week to watch people slip on ice and fall off roofs. There is something intensely activating about these kinds of videos. Maybe it's a bad impulse that we should try to heal, or maybe we need outlets for it that ultimately don't do anyone harm. 

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  • The real problem comes up when we're doing it in real life. It's one thing to do it with the safety of distance, and it's another to make your friends feel bad about bad things that have happened to them. We expect our friends to be there for us when we stumble. We would hate if instead they left us feeling worse. 

    But that's what one man did in the wake of an auto accident that happened to a friend of a friend. He failed to be there for his pal and instead took it as an opportunity to dunk on her and her life choices. Scroll on to find out what happened. 

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    Am I in the wrong for laughing and telling my friend that it was pretty funny that her friend got arrested.

    I (27M) was talking to one of my friends let's call her Katie and she was telling me about how she was very worried for her friend Giulla who called her worried because she got arrested in Japan and was embarrassed.
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    She is a somewhat mid sized twitch streamer and was with another streamer at a car meet- up. She got in the driver seat when the car was parked and the other streamer was away and when she came back she persuaded her to move the car and for some reason she had a brain thought the car was in reverse, accelerated when she
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    noticed it moving in reverse and forgot she had just changed it in drive and crashed. She hit someone but he dodged and wasn't injured but caused damage to 2 other cars. The stream was still running and even though she deleted it someone captured it and reshared.
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    She also did not have an international driving permit necessary to drive in Japan and was arrested because that counts as unlicensed. She will now probably have to pay for the damages.
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    When Katie told me this and I saw the video, I laughed a lot and said that was hilarious. Like what a dumb thing to do. People were piling on her in the comments and I agreed with them. It was a small automatic car, like how stupid you have to be to mess that up.
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    My friend got upset and called me an a hle and claimed I was being misogynistic when I never even said anything about that. She knows Guilia better than I do admittedly and said that she is a very sweet person and it must terrify her getting arrested and she did not want to drive it but gave in to peer pressure and that it could happen to anyone and
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    has more to do with not having driven the car before and that if she had practiced like 10 minutes in a more open lot to get the feel of RHD and the car she would have been fine. Now I'm wondering whether I was an ah for laughing, however what I said and my reaction was pretty similar to the majority of commentators in the video so I feel like I might be right over Katie.
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    AITA here? At the same time I do find it funny given Guilia's track record. She has claimed in the past to be a car enthusiast yet can't drive. Similarly she also claims to be into data science, programming and wanting to learn about machine learning yet I checked her github and it only has basic stats stuff in R and not any substantial projects.
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    Commenters doled out some hard truths.

    Fl... • 23h ago 23h ago Edited 4h ago. YTA. Your friend was sitting there telling you how worried they are for someone, and you mocked. them for it. You weren't just laughing at this chick: you were laughing at your friend for caring. Not cool.
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    DemonicSnow 23h ago • YTA. Like, you can think what someone did is stupid (which I agree with you), but generally if a friend is sharing something, you can get a good handle from their tone etc which way they're leaning. If they're showing sympathy to this person and you laugh it up hysterically, you're gonna come off badly. There are ways to show how they were a dumb without also coming off like a bat.
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    VermicelliValuable84 · 23h ago This is the one. It was definitely a stupid thing to do, but laughing about it in front of your concerned friend was not the right move. Laugh about it with someone else in private.
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    corvidcurio • 22h ago I think you would benefit from spending less time in online spaces and comment sections. Yes, people in that comment section agreed with you... because deriving joy from the misfortune of others is normalized online. That doesn't mean it's good or healthy, either for you, or for your ability to connect with and understand others.
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    To them, she is nothing but an opportunity to feel better about their own stupid mistakes, or catharsis when they project people they dislike onto her and then tear her down. To your friend, she is a real person with many facets to herself and her life, who is scared.
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    Your friend confiding in you is not a generic online post to snark on for upvotes. It's a moment where you should at least try to put snark and cynicism away, and consider others with more humanity than you would online. YTA. You and her friend both have lessons to be learned from this.
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    beckdawg19 • 22h ago I feel like this is a message 90% of the commenters and posters in this sub should really take to heart. Sure, funny, witty, nasty quips get likes online. In real life? They just make you a lonely a hole.
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    C... 22h ago Edited 22h ago Info: why mention that "she claims to be into data science, programming and wanting to learn about machine learning" yet has basic stats doesn't have substantial projects? You're definitely giving the guy who's sees a person wearing a band's t-shirt and randomly goes "if you're a
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    real fan?? Name their top 10 songs then or you aren't a real fan!" Or when a person says they like to watch anime but you give them crop because they only watch Attack on Titan and Bleach or something. There are plenty of car enthusiasts who cannot drive who simply just like
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    cars and some people can have an interest in things. without being absolutely invested in it. Unless she's claiming to be some kind of special professional in any of these categories I'm going to go off on a limb here and say you're TA for just this alone.
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    She might be seeing this behavior as misogynistic because many guys do this to women to make them prove themselves over their interest that aren't inherently "feminine". Irrespective, this is why people in general just don't like sharing their interests with other people.
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    NAH. It's a sucky situation. Her friend shouldn't have been driving without a valid license, but peer pressure s ks. It's kinda funny in a way to some I suppose, though she also has the right to feel worried for her friend. This situation would have been very different if someone got hurt which thankfully no one did and hopefully the friend learned her lesson and has better people around her in the future.
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    Edit: I doubt your friend will come to you about things again in the future. Maybe could have held off on the laughing until later
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    HeyLookATaco • 22h ago . I was actually on your side. for most of this - that IS kind of funny, and she should have gotten arrested. But you didn't just chuckle and say something indicating that you were amused while still reasuring your friend that their homegirl would be fine. You laughed
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    uproariously. She called you a misogynist which you hand wave away because, truly, there is nothing misogynistic about thinking someone who crashes a car should be punished. But then you actually double down on misogyny with that weird non-sequitor, gatekeepy paragraph at the end, explaining to us that you
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    also heard this person shared something that is presumably an interest of yours and that you double checked and she didn't pass your test. Which leads me to believe your friend has seen a pattern of behavior from you that lead her to call you out.
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    That combined with the way you're arguing with anyone who disagrees with you instead of examining your behavior in an honest way made me decide YTA on this one. You need to be nicer to your friends or they won't stick around.
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    jyuichi • 22h ago YTA Giulla messed up, do the crime pay the time but laughing at her friend isn't going to accomplish anything. You don't have to feel sorry for her but laughing at a worried friend is AH behavior.
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    Also Japanese cars are right hand drive I see how someone who is already confused everything is in the wrong spot could mess that up. That is one more reason she shouldn't have tried to drive it but I don't think you can mock her interests for that
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    Glanced4 23h ago YTA - laughing at the misfortune of one of your friend's friends is quintessential a hle behavior. Advice would be to get off the internet for a few hours.
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